I Feel Anxious: 15+ Questions to Deal with Anxiety

Sharing is caring!

Struggling to deal with anxiety? Tired of those negative thoughts running in your head 24/7? Well, me too!

For many of us—it starts with believing that you have no skills (strengths or values) to deal with anxiety. Take a look at some self-criticizing statements you may be using:

“I’m no good at handling stressful situations”

“It’s pointless. Why try solving this problem?”

“I don’t have any skills to help me manage my anxiety better”

If you’re thinking—“But I really don’t think I got any strengths of my own. It’s difficult to figure them out,” then I’d break the good news for you: Anything that helps you put through a difficult situation can be a strength. And If you can’t change a bad situation, at least nurture yourself with personal strengths. Sadly we’re often forgetful of our strengths. Things that make us feel good, because we’re too occupied criticizing ourselves.

What Your Strengths can Look Like?

  • Setting small immediate goals instead of feeling overwhelmed.

  • Removing things that are unimportant and making space for meaningful goals and priorities.

  • Identifying things that have worked for you in the past and doing more of that.

  • Recruiting friends who support you and remove those who no longer return calls and are toxic.

  • Use of faith (higher power, universe, or the future) to realize that bad times are temporary.

  • Coming up with alternative strategies to improve purposeful living.

  • Being more physically active.

  • Recognizing that setbacks are temporary and being hopeful about the future.

These strengths don’t always have to build a future or solve a problem. It can simply help build a safe space for you to cope with the difficulties of life.

For instance, a 55-year-old man who has no one to talk to, turns to the idea of ‘God’ or ‘angels,’ believing that he is loved and forgiven. A 20-year-old girl learns to ‘let go’ of her mother slapping her again and again, by numbing her feelings and visualizing them as floating out of her body. A little girl learns who deals with her toxic family at the dinner table and learns to distance herself through escape skills—music and books.

A woman whose husband recently died, felt like she would be washed away from the grief—on her drive to graduate school every day. So she began to set ‘tiny goals.’ At the intersection, she would let her weep heavily. Then she’d arrive at the class with a soaked lap. After the first day, she made it to the class without weeping. She considered this as a sign of coping with grief. The idea of ‘one tiny goal’ at a time made her realize that she could make it through the pain.

15+ Questions to Deal With Anxiety

I have framed a list of questions to help you recognize your strengths and deal with anxiety. Use these to make a list of things that are working for you.

List of 15+ Questions to Deal with Anxiety: Download Free

1. What is important to you? What matters to you?

2. What areas of your life are going well? What areas are going bad? What areas of life could be improved?

3. What defines you the best?

4. How would you like to spend your time?

5. Could you list down a few values that are most important to you?

6. Can you rank the listed values based on the order of importance?

7. What makes one value more important than others? How long has this been important to you?

8. How involved are you in this value, and for how long?

9. How do you plan to continue being involved in this value?

10. What are your top three behaviors that can continue to support your values?

11. List down instances last week when you were living fully on these values.

12. What behaviors and (or) choices supported you in living these values?

13. What behaviors and (or) choices kept you from living these values?

14. What additional behaviors and (or) choices could support you further in living your values?

15. List down some of your strong strengths and core strengths that you believe exist in you.

16. What strengths about you are you unsure about, but others notice about you?

17. What strengths do you believe exist within you but others aren’t aware of?

18. What strengths would you like to work/act upon this week? How will acting about your listed values or strengths help you in areas of life that aren’t going well, but can improve?

If you’re a big This Is Us fan like me—you must have noticed Kevin talking a lot about ‘Doing the right thing‘ as he navigates through difficult life decisions—from being there for Madison (mother of his kids when she got pregnant) to leaving the shoot just to help out Randall (one of his siblings) when he was having an anxiety attack.

The character of the show is nowhere close to perfect. He may have messed up situations for all his life. But one lesson you can learn from him by season 6 is—the complexities of life and difficult emotions (anxiety, grief, anger)—can be overcome by pursuing your skills, strengths, or values (whatever you name it).

Just to remind myself of the importance of pursuing skills, I prefer keeping this self-care journal of 200 pages handy. It has all the listed questions to pursue and list down: Things that I’m good at; Things that are working for me; and Things I could keep pursuing.

I’d highly recommend it if you’re a worrier like me and enjoy trying out self-care stuff out there!

Hope you found this useful. If yes, please let me know your thoughts in the comments or drop me an email and I’ll respond to you 🙂

Sharing is caring!